A mom-to-be is asking Reddit for help after her sister-in-law decided to go with a similar baby name to hers
The woman has a connection to the name, she says, while her sister-in-law does not
Commenters are telling her to let it be
A pregnant woman says she is not interested in “sharing” a baby name with her sister-in-law, who recently told her she was considering something similar to her own name choice.
In a post shared to Reddit, the woman writes that she and her sister-in-law are “both pregnant with girls due within 2 months of each other,” and she is due first.
“We shared with them the baby’s middle name before they found out they were having a girl and they recently told us they were considering a nearly identical first name and the same middle name,” she writes. “When I was surprised that it was almost the same exact name she acted surprised like we haven’t previously shared the name. Which we did on multiple accounts.”
While the woman’s sister-in-law said she was fine with the two children having nearly identical names, the poster doesn’t feel the same.
“I said it could be confusing,” she writes, adding that she is “not ok with it.”
Now, the sister-in-law has begun sharing her name choice with friends and family and the woman writes that she feels “extremely pressured and manipulated into going along with it.”
“I feel like she took the name,” she writes, adding that while she and her husband have ties to the name, it’s “not significant” to her sister-in-law “in any way.”
The post has already elicited more than 200 comments, with many Reddit users offering their assessment of the situation and saying the poster shouldn’t be worried at all, considering she is giving birth first.
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“Use the name you and your husband have planned for your daughter and let her name hers whatever she wants,” writes one commenter. “You’re giving birth first so it’ll look like she copied you and I suspect she’ll backtrack and if she doesn’t, that’s her choice.”
Adds another: “It’s fine to feel however you want. And they’re allowed to name their child whatever they want. No one is pressuring or manipulating you. They get to name their kid whatever they want. How you feel about it simply isn’t their problem.”
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