A woman wants to host a party for her daughter — and not invite a “mean” classmate who recently excluded her — but, she’s unsure if it’s the right call.
The woman detailed her story in the “Am I Being Unreasonable?” forum on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet, explaining that her 10-year-old daughter was recently invited — and then uninvited — to a classmate’s end-of-the-year party.
The original poster (OP) said her daughter was uninvited because the girl throwing the party found out that the boy she likes has a crush on the OP’s daughter.
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“[My daughter] doesn’t even like this boy or care about boys in general (thank god), but the girl doesn’t want [her] at her party because he will be there. [My daughter] has since been called names and been made fun of by this girl at school,” the woman said.
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Child’s birthday party (stock image)
The OP discussed the issue with the other girl’s mother, but was merely told, “ ‘You know what girls that age are like when it comes to boys.’ ”
The woman said she is now considering throwing her own, bigger party for her daughter’s class and inviting everyone but the girl who had excluded her daughter.
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“I don’t want [my daughter] to be upset and excluded, but I don’t know if I can let her be the mean girl, excluding someone else and making them upset,” the OP said in a follow-up comment.
The majority of the woman’s fellow community members said they thought that she should throw the party — and that it might even serve as a learning moment for the other family.
“Do it. You’re teaching the girl and her mother a valuable lesson here — that its not nice to be mean. Her mother obviously isnt teaching her,” one person said.
“[Throw a] bigger, better party for sure,” said someone else. ”I’d go full-on petty with this one, and if the mother complains, [say], “Well, you know what girls are like with parties nowadays.”
However, a few other Mumsnet users advised against it.
“Don’t. Go high, not low,” one person said.
“A 10-year-old, we can forgive […]. However, she’s sadly got a weak, ridiculous parent. Go ahead and throw your daughter a party,” someone else said before adding that they would invite the other child in order “to show the [other] mother how to behave properly.”
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