A woman shared on Reddit that she asked a bride to pay her back for her bridesmaid dress after the wedding was called off
The bride got upset and told the woman she was “being selfish and not supporting her during a hard time”
In the comments section, readers had mixed opinions on the situation
A woman bought a bridesmaid dress for a wedding that ended up being called off — and now she wants the bride to pay her back.
In a post on Reddit published Sunday, May 11, the 29-year-old woman explained that she was set to be a bridesmaid in her friend’s wedding and had already picked out “a specific dress from a boutique that cost over $350, not including the tailoring.”
“She insisted we all buy it by a certain date so she could take photos with the color palette,” the OP (original poster) noted.
But then, three months before the wedding, the bride called it off. “Totally understandable — things happen,” the OP wrote, before complaining that the bride “kept all the bridesmaid gifts, canceled the venue but didn’t refund anyone, and never mentioned the dress cost again.”
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So the OP “politely” spoke up to the bride, asking her if she could reimburse at least part of the cost of the bridesmaid dress “since the dress was her choice, her timeline, and now it’s just collecting dust.”
The bride didn’t take the request well. “She got upset and said I was being selfish and not supporting her during a hard time,” the OP wrote, asking readers if she was wrong to want the bride to pay her back.
In the comments section, opinions were mixed. Some felt that the OP was entitled to ask for a reimbursement for the wedding expense.
“You did her a favor by becoming a bridesmaid, the dress is nonrefundable and expensive, so she should reimburse you,” one person wrote, suggesting, “You can try the secondary market, see if the boutique still has the dress and put it online — but the problem is it’s altered.”
Another agreed, writing, “As far as I’m concerned, if you’re having a wedding and you want the bridesmaids to dress in a specific way, then you pay for it. It is sad she called it off, but it is not fair for you to incur the cost.”
Other readers, however, felt that the bride deserved to be given a little latitude, considering she was likely experiencing a difficult time at the moment.
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“I’m not sure what she might be going through since her whole wedding is canceled. Reimbursement would be the last thing on her mind at this time. She probably incurred lots of losses already,” one commenter said, advising, “Gently ask her, but don’t bug her about it every time. Give her some space and time.”
Another person agreed that the OP should be more supportive and give the bride some time before pushing her on any wedding reimbursements.
“It’s fine to ask her to partially pay for the dress, but not NOW. It’s too soon considering all that she is going through,” they wrote. “If she is truly your friend then she needs you to be a friend right now. We don’t know why the wedding was canceled, but she needs support now. Wait a bit until she starts to get over her blues before discussing it again.”
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