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A Redditor says that her boyfriend refuses to stop making comments about her breast size, despite her repeated requests that he stop
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She explains that she is a semi-pro athlete and her weight necessarily fluctuates throughout the year — which causes her breast size to change as well
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The woman says her boyfriend is now “frustrated” and has called her “unreasonable,” but her fellow Redditor users say they think he’s the problem
A woman is claiming that her boyfriend won’t stop making comments about her breast size, despite the fact that she has repeatedly asked him to stop.
The woman detailed her experience on the popular Reddit forum, “Am I the A——” a place where Redditors can go to seek advice about interpersonal issues.
In her post, the woman explained that she is a semi-pro athlete and has spent “years” working closely with her coach to determine the body fat percentage that yields the best results for her in her sport. She also noted that she intentionally gains some weight back when she is not competing.
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And while the Reddit user said that her sport “has nothing to do with looks and is strictly a performance sport,” she admitted that she does enjoy the fact that her breasts get smaller when she is at her competition weight, as “they become quite large to the point I have considered a reduction” when she weighs more.
The woman added that she is currently preparing for a competition and thus is at a lower weight, and her boyfriend keeps telling that he’s “so excited” for her weight “to come back up so my boobs get bigger.”
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“I told him he’s welcome to think that, but please don’t say it as it’s oddly frustrating for him to wish (out loud) for something I dread most about gaining weight,” she shared.
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“After I asked him to stop talking about my chest, he stopped directly commenting on it, but would drop comments like ‘Just imagine how great you’ll look next month’ while staring directly at my chest,” she continued, adding, “So that turned [into] me asking him just not to comment on my body until after I’ve performed.”
The original poster (OP) says that her boyfriend “got quite frustrated’ with her, telling her “it’s unreasonable” for her to expect him not to say anything about her body.
“I don’t totally disagree, but I also feel that if he can’t do it without inuendos about my chest […] he should probably just stop? I’m not asking him to stop commenting on my body forever, but to just sort of wait,” she concluded.
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The woman’s fellow Redditors were quick to assure her that she has every right to feel frustrated by her boyfriend’s comments.
“It would be unreasonable to expect him not to say anything about your body. He’s your boyfriend. It’s customary for boyfriends to compliment their girlfriend’s appearance,” said one person, before adding, “But it’s a super AH [a——] move on his part to say something NEGATIVE about your body, whether the feature is temporary or permanent.”
“NTA [not the a——],” said someone else. “It bothers you and you tell him to stop, he stops. If he doesn’t stop he’s an a——. It’s really that simple from a who is being an a—— perspective.”
Another user chimed in with: “NTA,” adding, “Please get rid of a partner that talks about your body this way. It is not a compliment. It is a backhanded comment that he doesn’t like you as you are. He is not a good supportive person.”
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