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A woman and her friend went head-to-head after one confronted the other about her constant complaining
The woman shared with Reddit users on the “Am I the A–hole” page that her friend always complains about the service when they go out to eat at restaurants
She explained that after she had alerted her friend that she does this, she was met with aggressive refusal
One woman’s friendship may have been hurt after she asked her friend to stop complaining at restaurants.
The 23-year-old OP (original poster) asked Reddit users on the “Am I the A–hole” Reddit page whether she was in the wrong after she confronted her friend about her complaints.
The OP and her friend, also 23, have known each other for about five years, she wrote. Whenever they go to a restaurant, the friend “complains about waiting.”
“The thing is – we have very rarely had to wait an unreasonable amount of time,” the OP wrote. “If the server isn’t at our table in 0.3 seconds, she’ll say, ‘Oh my god what the hell is taking so long?’ or ‘Where the f— is our server at??’ or ‘Why is our food taking so long?’ when it’s only been a few minutes.”
She noted that throughout their friendship, there is only one situation “where the complaints were warranted.”
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The OP confirmed that her friend is never rude to the waiter, “besides maybe not saying ‘thank you.’ ”
However, the poster said her friend usually makes “at least one comment” at every restaurant.
In one recent example, the two went out for breakfast. The OP’s friend quickly questioned where the waiter was after they had only been there “for a few minutes tops.”
“I kinda got mad at her and said, ‘You always do this at every restaurant we go to and you need to relax. We’ve hardly been waiting. They’re doing the best they can,’ ” the post read.
“And she kinda yelled at me and told me to calm down because ‘it’s not that big of a f—ing deal.’ ”
Several users reassured the OP that she’s “NTA” (also known as “Not the A—hole”).
One user advised the OP to stop going to restaurants with her friend and to explain why.
“Be honest and tell her you hate her complaining. Friendships tend to run their course. Don’t let her bad behavior ruin something that should be a pleasant experience. Let her know it’s unacceptable,” the user wrote.
The OP then replied, “It’s to the point where every time we go I get anxious because I think if the restaurant is even a little slow she’s going to lose it.”
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“NTA … sounds like your friend should not eat at sit-down restaurants and maybe consider the drive-thru, convenience store, or buffets,” another user added. The OP then replied, “She complains at drive thrus too from time to time…lol.”
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