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A woman explained that her husband wants to go to a bachelor party in Ibiza when she’ll be 38 weeks pregnant
She said that she asked him to reconsider, and he’s now accusing her of being “controlling” and “trying to ruin his life”
The woman shared her story on a popular community forum, where commenters were less than impressed by her husband
A woman said that her husband accused her of being “controlling and paranoid” because she asked him not to attend a bachelor party when she’ll be 38 weeks pregnant — and she’s wondering who’s in the wrong.
The woman detailed her story on the “Am I Being Unreasonable?” forum of the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet. In her post, she said that her husband’s best friend’s bachelor party is a four-day trip to Ibiza.
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However, “it just so happens to fall when I’ll be 38 weeks pregnant with our first baby,” she said.
“I get that it’s his best friend and he doesn’t want to miss out, but I’ll be the size of a house, unable to drive, [and] potentially going into labor while he’s off drinking God knows what on a boat,” she wrote, adding that she told her husband that she would “feel more comfortable” if he at least “stayed in the country.”
The original poster (OP) said that her husband is now accusing her of being “controlling and paranoid because ‘first babies never come on time,’ ” and that he also said she was “trying to ruin his life.”
“He’s 34 by the way, not 21,” she added.
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“I’m trying to be fair and not unreasonable, but I feel completely abandoned at such a critical time,” the OP continued. “If something did happen early and he missed the birth, I honestly don’t know if I’d forgive him.”
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“AIBU [am I being unreasonable] to say no? Or should I just let him go and hope the baby doesn’t come early like he says?” she asked.
The vast majority of Mumsnet users said that they thought the OP’s feelings were completely valid — and that her husband should reconsider his priorities.
“I think he should put you first and stay at home and not moan about it,” one person said.
“He needs to grow up. He’s about to be a father. There’ll be other weekends away,” said someone else.
Another person said, “A man who says you are ‘ruining his life’ by asking him to prioritize the birth of his first child over a boozy weekend away is neither husband nor father material,” before asking, “What on earth are you doing with this guy?”
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“I’m sorry you are married to such a man-child. He sounds like a pretty s— husband and father already. 38 weeks is very much full term, meaning baby could arrive at any time. Please don’t take his bulls—. You are not being controlling. This is his life now. He has responsibilities,” agreed someone else.
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