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A woman asked the internet if she acted the right way around her soon-to-be in-laws
Her partner’s parents told her that she should “quit working and be a stay-at-home mom”
The woman asked for financial protection from the family if she were to quit her job
Dealing with in-laws can be hard enough without mixing finances.
In a recent Reddit post, a 27-year-old woman shared that her “fiance’s parents are loaded. Old money loaded.”
While she earns over $170,000 a year, her fiancé, a teacher, “doesn’t make as much” but has a trust fund from his family.
“Recently, I had a weird conversation with him and his folks,” the woman shared. “They think that after the wedding, I should quit working and be a stay-at-home mom. I thought they were joking and kind of laughed. They are perfectly serious. They think it’s emasculating that I earn more than him.”
Although she will make more than her fiancé over the course of her career, she pointed out that “his trust fund is low seven figures,” and money won’t be an issue.
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“He could afford to pay me what I earn yearly but he can’t due to the stipulations of his trust,” she added. “His mom on the other hand has lots of interest built up in her trust.”
She noted that she doesn’t want to quit her job without any protections and “offered a solution [she] thought was fair.”
She suggested “they set up an unrecoverable trust” for her. “They must contribute my gross earnings yearly with bumps for anticipated raises and promotions. The deposits would be for the next 35 years That [way] I’m a stay at home mom, my fiancé is the breadwinner, and I’m protected in the case of a divorce.”
However, the family went “nuts” at the suggestion and told her she was “ridiculous for thinking they will give [her] money.”
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So, she offered another “compromise.”
“I sign a prenup wherein I am entitled to half of [my fiancé’s] trust fund in the case of divorce if I give up my career,” she suggested.
However, her idea was “also not acceptable to them.”
“I’m kind of at a loss. Do they honestly think I would give up my career with zero safety net?” she wondered.
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While the poster’s mother says she’s “being rude putting everything in such stark monetary terms,” the woman believes she’s “being reasonable,” which most commenters agreed with.
“They are asking you to give up financial security for him, but don’t want him to risk anything in return. You are 27, making $170,000 a year, you are obviously good at what you’re doing and have put the work in,” one commenter wrote.
“This is the time that your fiancé should be standing up for you and shutting his family down; his response here should tell you everything you need to know about your future marriage. Don’t do it, protect your future first.”
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