The Gist
A woman decided to keep her bridesmaid dress after being kicked out of the wedding party.
She skipped the nuptials and wore the dress to a brunch two days later instead.
The bride called her actions “disrespectful.”
It is famously expensive to be a bridesmaid. The dress, the shoes, the hair and makeup, the bachelorette party, the rehearsal dinner—let’s just say it adds up. So when one woman fell out of favor with a bride-to-be, she couldn’t help but wonder: was she allowed to keep the dress?
The answer was yes, according to her own logic. But unsurprisingly, the bride wholeheartedly disagreed.
A woman brought her dilemma to Reddit’s infamous AITA subreddit, where people share their dilemmas with the online community and ask if they are in the wrong. “I asked if I could still wear the dress to the wedding since it’s not like I can return it and she said absolutely not she doesn’t want anyone wearing that dress unless they’re in the photos and didn’t want ‘reminders of negativity’ at her wedding,” the ex-bridesmaid wrote on Reddit. “So I didn’t go.”
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A bride and groom holding hands during their wedding ceremony.
The duo’s falling out stemmed from what can only be described as bridezilla behavior on the part of the betrothed. When the ex-bridesmaid declined to have her nails done because she works in healthcare, that was apparently the last straw.
“She got mad and made some comment like ‘then maybe you’re not a fit for the bridal party’ so I said ‘maybe I’m not’ and I guess that was that,” she wrote.
Things really came to a head just two days after the wedding, however, when the ex-bridesmaid wore the light blue gown to a brunch and posted the photos on social media. It was immediately recognized as the dress. “She sent this whole thing about how I was being disrespectful and intentionally trying to ruin her vibe and I was like ???” she wrote. “It’s a dress I paid for and it looks good.”
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Four bridesmaids posing for a selfie.
In total, the dress, shoes, and alterations cost over $350. But keeping the dress cost more: the writer lost her girlfriend amid the disagreement after she sided with the bride. Ultimately, the debacle “drained [her] badly,” the ex-bridesmaid wrote. Reddit users came to her defense and declared she was not the asshole.
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A group of bridesmaids holding flower bouquets
“It’s your dress and you can do what you want with it,” one commenter wrote. “She’s desperate to cause drama—don’t let her take up any more of your energy.”
Another user conceded that perhaps wearing the dress to brunch was a tad petty; still, she wasn’t the bad guy. “NTA for using the dress you bought, but be honest wearing it two days after the wedding and ensuring it was all over social media.. you got the response you were after so don’t play 😇,” they wrote.
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