On Reddit, a mom shared her concerns about attending a bachelorette party that falls on Mother’s Day
Her friend originally didn’t plan to have a bachelorette party, but the maid of honor recently decided to throw one as a surprise
While the maid of honor understood some might miss the party due to Mother’s Day, the bride did not
One mom had to get real with her friend about why she had to skip her bachelorette trip.
In a now-viral Reddit thread, a mom shared how she had just given birth to her second child at the end of February and was facing a tough decision. Her friend, who is getting married this May, had asked her to be a bridesmaid, and her first child was set to be the flower girl.
Originally, the bride didn’t plan a bachelorette party to avoid drama with her younger sister, who has severe borderline personality disorder. However, the bride’s older sister, who is also the maid of honor, recently decided to throw a surprise bachelorette party. The only weekend that worked for most everyone was Mother’s Day weekend.
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While the maid of honor understood that some people might not be able to attend because of Mother’s Day, the bride-to-be didn’t feel the same way.
“My son is only going to be 11 weeks old at the time of the party and is mainly breastfed,” the mom wrote in her post. “He also has bad reflux issues at times, and can be hard for others to deal with. The bachelorette party is also 4 hours away from home, and it’s hard to justify even a day trip with a little one this small.”
“Well, last night my friend found out that I can’t go and was really upset about it,” she added. “I explained to her how much I truly wish I could be there, but I am unable to right now due to not being able to leave my son for that long yet. My friend basically told me not to talk to her anytime in the near future and that she will see me at the rehearsal dinner.”
“I really wish that I could [go], but my kids are always my first priority,” she continued. “I don’t appreciate her making me feel like a bad person for needing to be a mom. I will say that this friend has a bad history of needing to remain in control and likes to take things out on me when things don’t go her way. This might be the last straw for me, however, and I’m not sure if I even want to be in the wedding anymore.”
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Since posting, hundreds of people have chimed in with their thoughts on the situation. One user wrote that she believes the bride is “ridiculously entitled.”
“You are doing the right thing for your child and yourself, and that’s the most important of all,” the user wrote. “I’m not sure I’d attend the wedding if I were you. Your ‘friend’ is a completely unreasonable [a——].”
“I understand you want to be there for your friend, but you’re a parent first,” someone else wrote. “Your baby is only 11 weeks and breastfed, so that takes priority … And in my opinion, if your friend doesn’t understand that, she’s not much of a friend.”
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Since posting, the mom has come back to explain that after reading through all the comments and receiving support on her post, she has decided not to participate in the wedding.
“I did decide to communicate this to the bride and explain my reasoning why, as I didn’t want to just ghost her,” she wrote. “This type of behavior from her is not a first-time offense by any means, and I find that I’m always stressed about what her reaction could be if she disagrees with me in any way.”
“Another close friend of mine said that while the bride does care for me, she uses her affection as a weapon and that it is emotionally abusive,” she added. “It’s not healthy, and I hope that she finds better ways to deal with conflict management in the future.”
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