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A couple hit a bump in the road due to disagreements about what to name their first child
The husband is upset that his wife is leaning toward the name Lucas, which is the name of her ex-boyfriend
The man turned to Reddit to ask for opinions on how to handle the situation
A soon-to-be father says that he and his wife are at odds over what to name their baby — and she’s leaning toward the name of her ex-boyfriend.
In a post shared to Reddit, the anonymous 30-year-old man writes that the couple is expecting a boy, and has recently begun discussing names.
“She suggested the name ‘Lucas.’ I thought it was a nice name, but then I remembered—that’s the name of her ex-boyfriend,” he writes. “Not just any ex, but the guy she dated for six years before we got together.”
“I laughed and said, ‘Yeah, absolutely not,'” he continues. “She acted confused and asked why. I reminded her that Lucas was her long-term ex, and she rolled her eyes, saying, ‘So what? It’s just a name. I’ve always loved it.’ “
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The man then told his wife that “it felt weird to name our son after a guy she used to be in love with.”
“She said I was being ridiculous and insecure, that the name has nothing to do with him, and that I was ruining a name she’s loved since childhood,” he recounts. “I told her there are literally thousands of other names out there, and I’d be happy to discuss options—but not this one.”
Now, his wife is upset, accusing him of “overreacting and making a big deal out of nothing.” He wants to know who is in the wrong, and Reddit users were happy to share their thoughts.
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“If he ever has a daughter with his wife, he should suggest naming her after one of his long-term exes to see if the wife still feels the same about it being just a name,” one commenter writes. “I have a feeling that if the tables were turned, the wife would not be happy.”
“Why can’t she have empathy with your feelings and chose any other name?” another asks. “You are clearly uncomfortable with the name, a partner should understand that and compromise.”
Others feel the woman might not be over her ex, with one writing, “So she’s willing to start a war over this name……… that’s not normal. I’d be asking some questions.”
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