After months of chilling temps and short days, when the sun finally comes out of hiding, you can’t help but appreciate being outdoors. But once the novelty of soaking in rays wears off, reality sinks in: Then begins the maintenance tasks like mowing, tree trimming, and sprucing up your home’s exterior—which comes with noise and potential nuisances for neighbors.
Balancing what you need to fit in your already-packed schedule and keeping your neighbors happy can be challenging. Some areas with strong HOAs may have clear rules about when you can complete “noisy tasks,” which at least gives clear guidelines for what is permitted. But just because something is allowed doesn’t mean it’s courteous, and what do you do if you have neighbors who are oblivious to the unwritten rules of “quiet hours?”
An etiquette expert offered her take on tackling these touchy topics and maintaining friendly relationships that will have everyone you know asking, “Won’t you be my neighbor?“
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Meet Our Expert
Diane Gottsman is a leader in etiquette training and founder of the Protocol School of Texas.
Your Official Guide to Being a Good Neighbor in the Summer
“When it comes to yard work, such as mowing the lawn, edging, leaf blowing, and any other activity that involves a louder level of noise than usual, it’s important to take your neighbors into consideration—to some degree,” says etiquette pro Diane Gottsman. “There are neighbors who don’t want any noise at any time, which is unavoidable.”
Though it’s impossible to completely eliminate the noise of yard work throughout the summer, you can do it at specific times to minimize the disruption to others. Gottsman recommends sticking to the window of 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. on the weekends. “Of course there is some wiggle room within that, but think of people sleeping in or having people over for cocktails and dinner and how it’s going to affect the noise level,” she says.
While no one loves listening to a saw cut down a dead tree, there are times when large, loud projects need to get done to keep your home safe. But, barring an emergency, keeping your neighbors in the loop is a thoughtful move: When you have plans for a major renovation, give them a heads up if any large trucks or roadblocks are going to be in the way.
Gottsman also suggests giving anyone who was inconvenienced a small token of appreciation for their patience, like a homemade dessert, nice candle, or gift card—little gestures can go a long way toward building strong relationships in your community.
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What to Do If Your Neighbors Aren’t Being Respectful
First, be realistic: If your neighbor works off hours as a nurse, it’s likely harder for them to keep to the typical “noise schedule.” Consider discussing a day to set aside when people can work a bit earlier or later in your neighborhood. If someone is starting yard work a few minutes early or struggling to finish by an agreed-upon ending time when you know they’ve been working hard all day, give them some grace (they probably wish they were done, too!).
Remember that not everyone knows your schedule or follows the same one. Your neighbors may be totally unaware when your child has nap time or that you have a standing Zoom call with your manager Friday mornings. If you let them know nicely, they’ll probably accommodate you—especially if you return the favor. Simple and clear communication can often avoid simmering resentment.
For these specific asks, consider doing a small “give.” For example, if you request they hold off on mowing their lawn because you’re hosting brunch on a Saturday, invite them to join or offer to bring them a bottle of champagne.
At the end of the day, remember the golden rule: Think about how you’d like others to treat you, and give them the same courtesy. This will always result in all-around more understanding, neighborly relationships.
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