Taylor Frankie Paul has capitalized on her viral “soft-swinging” scandal to launch a reality TV career, but her ex-husband Tate Paul has deliberately stayed out of the spotlight, remarried, and welcomed a third child—a stark study in how two people navigate public fallout in opposite ways.
Taylor Frankie Paul first rose to prominence as a Mormon “MomTok” influencer on TikTok, sharing curated glimpses of her family life in Draper, Utah People. Behind the scenes, she was building a life with her husband, Tate Paul. The couple married in 2016 and quickly expanded their family: daughter Indy arrived less than a year later, followed by son Ocean in 2020 People.
The marriage’s end came in the most public way possible. During a June 2022 TikTok Live broadcast, Taylor Frankie Paul announced her separation from Tate and disclosed a private “soft-swinging” agreement between them—an arrangement permitting intimacy with others without “going all the way.” She admitted she had violated that rule, a confession that instantly went viral and became the defining scandal of her early career People.
A Deliberate Retreat From the Spotlight
While Taylor Frankie Paul harnessed the scandal into a Hulu reality series (The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives) and an upcoming role on The Bachelorette, Tate Paul chose a radically different path: complete withdrawal People. He maintains only minimal social media presences—a TikTok account focused on music remixes and an Instagram with occasional personal updates—allowing no interviews and engaging in no public discourse about the divorce People.
His silence is itself a statement in an era that rewards oversharing. Yet, through carefully selected social media posts, a new chapter has quietly emerged. In September 2024, Taylor Frankie Paul told Distractify that Tate was “doing great” and engaged to his partner Distractify. That partner is Bailey Paul (née Roberts), an esthetician whose professional Instagram, @baiesthetics, highlights her work in lashes and brows. The couple married, as evidenced by Bailey’s adoption of his surname on Instagram.
Family Rebuilt in Private
In October 2023, Tate and Bailey welcomed a daughter, his third child overall. The birth was announced via a since-deleted Instagram post, but the family’s growth was cemented on Mother’s Day 2024 when Tate shared a tribute to Bailey: “Happy Mother’s Day to the love of my life! You are an incredible mother and partner. Thank you for everything you’ve done for Me, our baby, and my kids. I’m impressed daily with how selfless and nurturing you are.” Instagram This expansion of his family represents a profound personal renewal, accomplished entirely outside the media frenzy that surrounds his ex-wife.
His career, meanwhile, remains deliberately obscure. He publishes music remixes on SoundCloud and shares snippets on TikTok, but there is no public-facing profession or business venture beyond these creative outlets People. This stands in stark contrast to Taylor’s full-time pivot to entertainment, where her personal history is the product.
The Unlikely Co-Parenting Success Story
Perhaps the most striking detail to emerge is the apparent harmony between the former spouses. In a September 2024 interview with Today, Taylor Frankie Paul revealed that Tate and her current partner, Dakota Mortensen, “are buddies,” and that she is “buddies” with Tate’s wife Bailey. “I don’t know if that makes anyone uncomfortable, but that’s OK, because I think it’s part of my story. It’s authentic,” she said People. She stressed that Tate “is still going to always be an important figure in their lives and mine,” framing their relationship as a stable foundation for children Indy and Ocean.
This cordiality is exceptional in the landscape of high-profile divorces, suggesting both parties have consciously chosen to prioritize familial peace over public discord. For Tate, it allows him to remain a present father while preserving his privacy.
Why Tate’s Quiet Rebuilding Captivates
The divergence between Taylor’s media-savvy ascent and Tate’s quiet retreat has fueled endless public speculation. Online observers have debated his motivations: Was the “soft-swinging” agreement his idea? Why did he never defend himself? His silence has been interpreted by some as dignity, by others as avoidance. By remarrying and having another child away from cameras, he has authored a quiet counter-narrative to the viral scandal that consumed their marriage.
His story resonates because it challenges the modern playbook. In an age where personal trauma is often monetized, Tate Paul’s choice to rebuild his life privately—while still maintaining a functional co-parenting relationship—offers an alternative model. It underscores a fundamental truth: not everyone who becomes a subject of public fascination desires to remain a public figure. Sometimes, the most powerful response is to simply live, and let the curiosity fade.
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