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A newlywed wants to end a friendship with a woman who didn’t show up to her wedding
In a post on Reddit, the bride shared her friend is known for continuously canceling and rescheduling her plans, and claimed to have gotten a flat tire on the way to the ceremony
“None of us are confident that the flat tire actually happened and think she just decided she didn’t want to come,” the bride revealed
A newlywed wants to end a friendship with a woman who didn’t show up to her wedding.
In a post shared to Reddit’s r/Weddings forum, a new bride opened up about her friend — who she describes as “flaky” — after the woman missed her wedding celebration, including the ceremony and reception.
“I got married a couple of weekends ago, and it was absolutely perfect!” she began the lengthy post. “However, I have one friend who just didn’t show up, even after RSVPing yes and texting me multiple times about how excited she was leading up to wedding day.”
According to the Redditor, she and the woman both live about 10-15 minutes from her wedding venue, so she was shocked to hear why her friend wasn’t in attendance.
“During the reception, I saw the group of friends she was supposed to be with and talked with them for a minute until I realized she wasn’t there; I asked where she was and they all looked at each other like 😬.”
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“She apparently had texted them just before the ceremony that she was on her way but had gotten a flat tire. Friends from this group offered to pick her up, she said no,” the bride continued, adding that a rideshare would probably have lost less than $10.
The bride also shared that her friend is known for continuously canceling and rescheduling her plans.
“[Honestly], after discussing with my other friends from this group, none of us are confident that the flat tire actually happened and think she just decided she didn’t want to come,” she revealed.
“To top things off, she didn’t speak a word to me about missing the wedding until today, when she texted me that she was ‘so sorry she missed it’ and offered to take us to dinner ASAP to make up for it,” the bride added. “I truly didn’t even want to hear an apology because I know it’s insincere and that this will continue to happen based on past experiences with her.”
The bride goes on to share that she feels that a pattern has emerged in their friendship, in which she “constantly [shows] up for her and she constantly flakes.”
“Normally not a huge deal, but this was my wedding for gods sake! I genuinely don’t want to continue this friendship based on this situation and some other issues from the past, but I don’t know how to or if I should address it,” the post ends, as the bride turns her question over to Reddit, asking for advice on how she should end this friendship.
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“I would be happy to just not reply and move on, but I do see her regularly as we are in the same academic program,” she notes. “I also don’t want to cause any problems in our friend group or make anyone else feel uncomfortable for being friends with the both of us.”
Many Redditors in the comments agreed that she should slowly stop communication over time with her friend.
“You could say ‘Thanks for the apology. No need to do dinner. We understand that emergencies happen,'” one suggestion stated. “And maybe make some vague plans to hang out with everyone as a group that will likely never happen.”
“She’s flaky, you’re over it. There’s nothing to discuss. Hang out with her in a group but don’t go out of your way to do one-on-one things,” the comment continued. “Keep it cordial cause you will keep running into each other.”
“Just accept her apology, and move on,” another commenter advised. “Baby step back, like don’t make any one-on-one plans with her, but if she’s there in a group setting, don’t make it weird. Just don’t expend energy on her if you want to be done.”
“Don’t text first, keep interaction minimal,” they added. “It doesn’t have to be a big deal.”
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