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A woman is looking for outside perspectives after getting invited to a wedding where the bride suggested guests wear their own bridal gowns for the occasion
The anonymous woman shared her story on Reddit, revealing that she didn’t want to be the “only one” who attended in a wedding dress
“My friends say I should just do it and if anyone has a problem with it, that’s their issue not mine,” she wrote
A wedding guest asked for the internet’s advice after a bride-to-be suggested she and other attendees wear their own bridal gowns to her upcoming ceremony.
The anonymous guest recently shared her story on Reddit’s “Wedding Attire Approval” subreddit, revealing that a wedding website suggested guests throw on their own wedding dress for good measure. She also shared a screenshot of the suggestion, made by the soon-to-be bride of her husband’s good friend.
“How about, if you have one, and if you want to, and if you fit in it, your own wedding dress! Go on, it will be fun,” a screenshot of the website read. “If not, then as fabulous a costume as you feel up for, whether it’s an 80s prom number or your sequinnest onesie. OR.. just your favorite party attire, or chinos, or pretty much anything, just not formal. Extra points for medieval feasting finest.”
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Stock image of four women wearing bridal gowns
While the gown mention was only a suggestion, the Reddit user had some reservations. As she explained, her wedding dress “fits,” it’s “comfy and perfect” and she doesn’t have many other options for dresses in her “limited wardrobe.”
“I worry I would be the only one to do this and get looks from the (very large) crowd, so it kinda feels like a trap,” the original poster wrote. “But it’s also literally in the wedding website sooo I kinda wanna do it to honor the request as also it’s the comfiest public-facing garment I own.”
For added context, the attendee shared that her husband and the groom have been friends for over 25 years and, while she has “never met bride or groom” herself, she could have her husband double check with the groom on if the gown is a good move.
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“I dunno I want to but I worry people could be kinda brutal about it if I do,” the woman wrote on Reddit. “Am I too in my head about this? My friends say I should just do it and if anyone has a problem with it, that’s their issue not mine. What do you guys think?”
The post’s top commenters seemed to agree that, if the website encouraged wedding dresses, wedding dresses are totally fair game.
“If the bride is suggesting it and you want an excuse to wear it again then do it!! All the guests will have read the same instructions as you and therefore will understand,” one user wrote. “It’s quite clear the bride isn’t going to be wearing a typical white wedding dress so you’ll be fine!!”
“I want an invite to this wedding,” another Reddit user wrote. “Sounds awesome. Wear your dress. There will definitely be other women that do. I would 💯 love to wear my dress again. The brides outfit will be incredible I bet. Please share it with us (with her permission obviously).”
The OP later confirmed that, after the many “affirming comments” from her fellow Redditors, she decided to go with the bridal gown. And she had a game plan to dial it down a little, too.
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Wedding dresses on hangers
“I plan to check charity shops in my area for some sort of cosy and cute cardigan/shawl/wrap situation to break up the white, and give me a cover. Otherwise I plan to wear this with my hair down in waves, with a wavy brimmed straw hat and summery t-strap flat sandals,” she wrote. “Maybe a cute belt if I can find one to help dress it down a bit more? I’m hoping this is a solid summer solstice/celebration lewk I will also bring a backup change of some fun casual street clothes just in case I feel overdressed.”
Ahead of the wedding, which she wrote would be taking place on a farm, the woman added that her “anxiety has decreased a lot with all your input.”
“I’ll try to remember to come back in a couple weeks after the wedding to tell y’all all about it,” she wrote.
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