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A wedding guest/bridesmaid was instructed to wear cocktail attire to a couple’s rehearsal dinner — but was then given pizza, outside, where she “froze [her] a– off” in a short dress
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The wedding also had high dress code expectations, but had no wine service at the buffet dinner, and only offered an open bar at happy hour
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“Man, if you specify the dress code, you have at least to give the guest a fork,” another user wrote
A bridesmaid is criticizing a couple’s contradictory wedding expectations.
In a post on Reddit’s r/weddingshaming forum, a bridesmaid shared her recent experience at a couple’s rehearsal dinner, in which the dress code was listed as cocktail attire. However, the dress code didn’t fit the rest of the event — dinner was extremely casual, she wrote.
Held at a brewery, the rehearsal dinner was in an “outdoor seating area of a brewery with no heating,” the guest wrote. The actual dinner was “a few boxes of pizza” and a drink ticket for either a beer or a non-alcoholic drink.
The guest clarified that she had no problem with the laid-back vibe, but rather that the wedding couple had asked for cocktail attire for the casual event.
“I froze my a– off in very, very windy 50-degree weather and ate pizza off a cafeteria bench,” she added.
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Wedding meal.
The bridesmaid expected a similar theme for the wedding, held the next day. She had to get two dresses — a cultural dress for the three-hour ceremony, then another gown for the reception in the evening — and a professional photographer had been booked, she wrote. But the black-tie optional wedding would have no wine service at its buffet dinner, and would only offer an open bar at cocktail hour.
She admitted she wasn’t excited to spend her day at this wedding.
“I totally get saving money and having a more casual event, but I feel like the dress code should reflect that,” the bridesmaid wrote.
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Users in the comments agreed that “cocktail attire” should be indicative of other aspects of the wedding, like the food and venue. Some recalled rehearsal dinners they’d attended that also served pizza and beer — but also included a “casual” dress code.
“A friend of mine had her rehearsal dinner at a bar arcade! We all wore jeans and T-shirts and had fun!” one wrote. “But she let us know that. I didn’t have to wear a cocktail dress!”
“Man, if you specify the dress code, you have at least to give the guest a fork,” another wrote.
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