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A man detailed in a post on Reddit how his friendship ended with his “best friend” because she called his wedding gift to her “cheap”
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At the time, money was “tight” for the guest, and he “already spent hundreds of dollars to attend this wedding” so he thought that his $80 contribution to the bride’s honeymoon fund would be enough. One year after the wedding, the bride called him out for his “cheap” gift, and their relationship was “never the same”
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Reddit users sided with the wedding guest and called the bride “greedy” and “selfish”
A bride’s friendship is over with one of her wedding guests because his gift wasn’t up to par.
In a post on Reddit’s “Wedding Shaming” forum, the guest detailed how his relationship with his “best friend” was “never the same” after the bride judged him for how much money he contributed to her honeymoon fund.
Even though the wedding took place “a few years back,” the guest is still hurt by the situation. He explained that his friend’s nuptials were held in a different state than where he resided, saying it was practically a “destination wedding.”
“I was excited to attend,” the Redditor remembers. “But had to purchase a new suit, transportation and pay for a hotel (3 nights).”
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Stock photo of a bride counting money
At the time, the man also had to pay “$1,900 out of pocket for dental work,” so money was admittedly “tight.” But because the bride was his closest friend, he didn’t want to miss out on the “biggest day of her life,” and found a way to afford the trip.
The first issue between the friends arose when the guest accidentally stayed at the wrong hotel. He “had no idea” that the bride’s wedding website “recommended” a specific hotel for everyone to book, so he had booked a different nearby hotel that was “more affordable.”
“She was not happy about this, but I didn’t understand why I had to be at this specific one,” the man said, noting that the bride sent him “a rude text” about it.
But what really drove a wedge between the duo was the wedding gift.
Because the guest had “already spent hundreds of dollars to attend this wedding,” he didn’t think he needed to shell out a ton of cash for the gift.
“I only gave $80 to their honeymoon fund as a gift,” he said. “Looking back, I admit I could have splurged for more, but I don’t drink, was without a date and figured that everything I did to attend this wedding would all be enough for her.”
A year later, the man learned that it actually wasn’t enough for the bride, and that she had secretly been harboring resentment over the size of his monetary contribution.
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Stock photo of an angry bride
One day, the man casually mentioned to his friend that he had another wedding to attend soon.
“Her first response was, ‘Well, don’t be cheap and give them only $80,’ ” he remembered. “This message made my heart drop. Not only did it make me feel like a horrible person, I was also angry that she remembered my exact donation amount over a YEAR later.”
“From that point on, I lost a ton of respect for her, and our relationship was never the same,” the man added.
Rather than acknowledging how her friend traveled two states over for her multi-day celebration, the bride chose to focus on material things.
“I just can’t believe that her entire memory of me at her wedding was being ‘cheap,’ ” the man shared.
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Reddit users in the comments section labeled the bride as “greedy,” and argued that $80 was an appropriate amount to spend.
“Honestly, if you’d done all that for my wedding, I wouldn’t expect a penny for a gift,” one person said, with another writing, ” ‘The trash will take itself out’ comes to mind! I’m so sorry she did this, I can’t imagine how you must have felt when you got that text. Yikes, good riddance I suppose.”
Other users pointed out that the recommended hotel stay might have also been financially motivated.
“She was mad you didn’t go to her recommended hotel because she would have gotten a percentage out of the money you spent on your stay,” one Redditor explained. “She was incredibly selfish: I wouldn’t have expected any gift for a destination wedding: your presence was your gift.”
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