A groom is unhappy with his mother’s choice of wedding attire.
The soon-to-be-wed shared in a post on Reddit’s “Wedding Shaming” forum, that he’s upset with his mother for choosing to wear a white dress at his upcoming wedding — despite advising her against doing so.
He shared that his mother asked him “what colors she should wear” to his wedding, to which he replied that she should avoid wearing “white and light blue” to avoid conflicting with the bride’s and bridesmaid dresses.
However, he heard that she went completely against his advice and got “a white dress with some line work, light blue floral print on it.” He said that he got worried by the description of the dress, so he asked her to take a photo of it, but she refused.
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“After a day of leaving me on read, she replied with, ‘No, that’s not appropriate for you to ask me.’ She then stopped responding to my texts,” the groom wrote, adding that she was “a tricky one” to deal with.
The husband-to-be even asked his dad to take a photo of the dress, but he also refused. However, his dad did point him “in the direction of a photo of a jacket with a similar color makeup,” which was “far too white for anyone, let alone the mother of the groom, to wear to a wedding.”
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“I then sent a bunch of articles that discuss white printed dresses at weddings and what is and isn’t appropriate,” he said.
He said that while his dad agreed and “now understands it’s inappropriate,” his father added that his mom “is stressed at work” and likely won’t be able to go dress shopping for a different dress to wear for the occasion.
“I’m absolutely fuming that they’re unwilling to put me & my fiancée’s feelings above hers for this one day in my life,” he concluded his post, before opening it to comments.
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Several people agreed that his mother was being rude and out of line by acting the way that she was. One person wrote that his mother is “not a ‘tricky one,’ she’s smashing boundaries, and nobody is checking her.” They added, “Your marriage will never survive if you do not learn to stand up to her.”
Another person chimed in that the groom already laid out “clear guidance” for what his mom could and couldn’t wear, but that she “purposely chose something that broke both of the simple rules you gave her.” They added, “If you don’t put your foot down about this and let your mother’s antics come before your fiancée’s feelings, you’re starting your marriage off in a baaaad way.”
They suggested that the groom “call her, leave a voicemail — or better yet, send a video message making it clear: she is not wearing that dress…”
Another person shared, “This is about you and your fiancée. Letting [your mom] get away with this will just mean she will continue to act this way and eventually ruin your marriage.”
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