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A woman says she got more than she bargained for when she went to look at a home with her husband, and her future mother-in-law showed up to the viewing
In a post on Reddit, she writes that her own fiancé couldn’t make the viewing — but his mom made a surprise appearance
“She then went into every room and went on and on about how ‘we’ could decorate it all and saying what kind of furniture we should get and what art work would look good where,” she writes
A woman says she got more than she bargained for when she went to look at a home to purchase, and her future mother-in-law showed up to the viewing.
In a post shared to Reddit, the anonymous 25-year-old writes that she and her fiancé are in the process of selling their house and looking to move closer to his hometown.
“We have been viewing a few places with my fiancé’s parents (having been invited),” she wrote. “His parents are obviously excited about us moving nearer to them and I understand this. The thing is, his mum has a habit of being very overwhelming. I THINK she means well, but she just oversteps and doesn’t seem to have a basic understanding of normal boundaries.”
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She continues: “So his mum found this house and basically decided it’s the one she wants us to buy. It’s a good price, safe location and has everything we’re looking for. The catch? His parents live opposite. Like right opposite. This immediately had me concerned for obvious reasons. But my partner doesn’t seem to understand how this could potentially be a big issue and is very interested in the house despite what I say.”
The woman agreed to view the house and, when something came up, and her fiancé couldn’t make the viewing, the woman went solo and invited her own parents.
“So me and my parents were at the viewing and the home was lovely,” she wrote. “I could see it being a wonderful place to bring up our 18 month old son and was envisioning how his bedroom could be, the plants I would grow in the garden, how we would decorate it all at Christmas etc. I really did get a great feeling that I haven’t experienced anywhere else yet. Then there was a knock at the door.”
She continued: “The estate agent apologized, said the next viewer must be early and went to tell them that we just needed a few more minutes. Then he comes back in, with… my fiancé’s mum, who had told him that she was with us and just running late.”
The woman added that she never told her fiancé’s mom what time the appointment was, so she must have seen them in the driveway and made her way over.
“I was pretty p—–,” she shared. “She just took it upon herself to turn up because she ‘just needed to see the house.’ She then went into every room and went on and on about how ‘we’ could decorate it all and saying what kind of furniture we should get and what artwork would look good where, and deciding how we should use the spare room etc.”
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Now, the woman is asking the internet: “Is it reasonable that I feel irked by this and consider it an invasion of something that didn’t involve her, or is it not that bad and I should just see her excitement and let it go? Would you get the house or is it a disaster waiting to happen?”
Other Reddit users are telling the poster to exercise caution, with one writing: “If you want healthy boundaries with his family, you can’t live across the street from them. You will have no peace or privacy. She’s already shown she doesn’t care how you feel and she will walk all over you to get what she wants. Stay strong.”
Adds another: “Ever watch Everybody Loves Raymond? This show will give you an idea of what your life will be like if you buy this house. Good luck.”
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