A woman is unsure if she’s overreacting after her husband made a “strange” comment to her female friend.
In a post on Mumsnet’s “Am I Being Unreasonable?” forum, the woman explained that she recently had her best friend over for dinner while her husband was out with friends.
“My friend had been upset while talking with me about some relationship issues, one of which related to trying for a child,” the woman said, adding that the friend’s husband often says he is too “tired” from work to try to conceive.
The original poster (OP) said that her own husband then came home and that it was “clear that my friend had been crying.”
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She said her husband asked the friend what was wrong, and she explained that she “was upset about not being pregnant yet, and that her [husband] was often giving reasons not to try.”
The OP said that this was when her husband made the questionable comment.
She recalled that he told her friend something along the lines of, “[Your husband] must be crazy,” and that he was “surprised” that the other man wasn’t taking the opportunity to have lots of “fun” with her.
“This might be my insecurity, but I don’t think [my husband] should have said what he did,” the OP said. ”I have spoken to him, and he says I’m reading too much into it and he was just trying to be friendly as he could see my friend was upset.”
In a follow-up comment, the woman said that the most recent comment came after a past incident in which her husband once asked her to wear an outfit that he saw the same friend wearing, as it would “really turn him on.”
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“He was drunk and apologized profusely in the following days. But it did make me think he finds my friend attractive,” she added.
“Now I don’t know if I’m overreacting,” the woman confessed.
The OP’s post sparked a debate among her fellow Mumsnet users. Some commenters said they felt the comment was relatively innocuous and that she should try not to overthink it.
“I think he just didn’t know what to say and felt awkward when he walked into [the conversation], so he made a light-hearted comment about it […]. He was probably trying to make her feel better or make her smile. Yeah, it probably was a bit inappropriate, but I doubt he meant any harm by it,” one person said.
“Your [husband] was probably embarrassed to be faced with a tearful woman and gave a clumsy reply. I wouldn’t be upset. Sounds like her [husband] is an a–, and your [husband] was trying to make her feel better,” another wrote.
Other commenters, however, said that they thought what the husband said crossed a line.
“Inappropriate and icky,” said one person.
“He’s 100% got a crush on your friend,” added someone else.
A third person said, “You’re right, he massively overstepped. And considering he already told you you should dress like your friend as it turned him on, he definitely fancies her.”
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