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An older sibling is asking the internet if she made the right decision in telling her sister about her fiancé’s “weird” behavior
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She told her sister that her fiancé hit on her the night of their engagement party
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Many agreed she did the right thing, insisting her sister has a right to know who she’s going to marry
A woman is asking the internet if she made the right decision in telling her sister about her fiancé’s odd behavior the night of their engagement party.
In a Reddit post, the woman explains that her younger sister recently got engaged to a man who is 14 years her senior.
“The age gap already made me uncomfortable but she kept saying he was mature and different,” the woman explains.
However, at the couple’s engagement party, the man began acting strangely towards the poster. It started subtly, like him repeatedly offering to fill up her wine glass.
“At first I thought he was just being polite, but then he started getting weird,” she writes. “He stood too close, touched my back a few times, and eventually said something like ‘if things were different, I’d be with someone like you.’ “
Stunned by his comment, the woman “laughed awkwardly,” but he didn’t stop.
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“He asked if I really supported their marriage and said I seemed more ‘on his level.’ I felt gross and left early,” she explains.
She then told her sister what happened that night, but she “completely flipped out” and insisted the poster “was jealous and trying to ruin her life.”
While the woman’s mom believes her, her dad questioned whether she may have “misinterpreted” his behavior.
“Now the wedding is on hold, and most of the family is upset with me for causing drama,” the woman shares, noting that she is “starting to regret saying anything but I also feel like I had to.”
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While the family is divided, people in the comments believe she did the right thing by telling her sister, even if it did hurt her feelings.
“You’re telling the truth out of love and care for her, not to ruin her life. He’s the one who crossed the line, and he did it at his own engagement party with his future sister-in-law,” one user wrote. “It’s clear that age doesn’t define maturity—he’s a manipulator.”
“Your sister may be blinded by love right now, but sooner or later she’ll realize the kind of person she’s really with,” they continued. “You did the right thing.”
The woman responded to this comment, writing, “Exactly how I felt. It wasn’t about causing drama; it was about not letting her walk into something blind. She needed to know who she was really with.”
In response to another user, the poster noted that she gave her sister the information, but “what she does next is on her. I wasn’t about to sit there and pretend everything was fine.”
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