105 Intimate Questions To Ask Your Partner and Reignite That Spark

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Date night might look a bit differently once you’ve been committed to your significant other long-term. You feel more comfortable around them and there could be ruts where you may slip up and find yourself not trying quite as hard for their attention or to please them. In order to keep the spark alive and beat those lulls, why not make it a point to ask your partner intimate questions to get to know them again? Maybe you don’t feel like you know what it is they want anymore, or maybe you just want some ideas on how to connect with them on a deeper level. Whatever the case may be, we may just have the answer (in the form of questions, of course).

Even if you’re not in a rut and your relationship is as healthy as ever, it still couldn’t hurt to implement some of these questions into your next date night. It could amp up your date and ignite a spark! There’s no wrong time to try and make your relationship better, especially if it’s going well already. Intimacy is about feeling seen and heard in your relationship, but most importantly understood.

That’s why we’ve compiled a list of 105 intimate questions to ask your partner so that you can make your connection with your special someone that much better.

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Best Intimate Questions To Ask Your Partner

1. What is something you want to do together to strengthen our bond?

2. What are your expectations of me in our relationship?

3. What differences do we have that make us complementary?

4. What do you think is our biggest strength as a couple?

5. What are your favorite family memories?

1. What song always makes you think of me?

2. How do you feel is the best way to confront a problem?

3. What are some ways that you think we could support each other better?

4. What’s your biggest goal in life?

5. How do you think your childhood has shaped who you are today?

6. What’s something you hope to accomplish in the next year?

7. How do you feel when we spend time apart?

8. How much quality time together feels right to you, and why?

9. What have you always wanted to try, but haven’t yet?

10. What goal are you currently working toward?

1. What does your ideal weekend look like?

2. What aspect of our relationship do you feel would be important to teach others?

3. How loved and appreciated do I make you feel?

4. How do you feel about the current state of our relationship?

5. Where do you see yourself in five years? What about us?

6. What does the perfect day look like to you? How would you spend it?

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Deep Intimate Questions To Ask Your Partner

1. Is there anything you’re afraid to accomplish that I can help you with?

2. What is the closest you’ve ever felt to me?

3. What is your biggest regret?

4. If you didn’t have to work, what would you do with your life?

5. What is a fear of yours that we’ve never talked about?

1. What makes you feel the most loved?

2. How do you feel our careers affect our relationship?

3. What do you feel is the most important component of a family?

4. How and when did you know we’d make it as a couple?

5. What challenges from your past have made you stronger?

6. What would you do if you had unlimited resources?

7. Who was the last person you cried in front of? Why?

8. How do you express your emotions?

9. What are your thoughts on vulnerability in a relationship?

10. What makes you feel secure in our relationship?

1. What is love to you? Describe what love looks and feels like to you.

2. Do you think it’s true that love is more than just a feeling?

3. How do you plan to achieve your dreams?

4. Who inspires you to follow your dreams?

5. How have your past relationships influenced your views on love and commitment?

6. What do you feel makes our relationship strongest?

Flirty Intimate Questions To Ask Your Partner

1. What setting do you think is the most romantic?

2. Out of the five senses, which is the most sensual to you?

3. What activities do you enjoy doing with me?

4. What’s the most daring thing you’ve ever done?

5. What makes you feel most connected to me?

6. What do you dream about the most often?

7. What do you like most about your appearance?

8. What do you like most about my appearance?

9. How do you define emotional intimacy, and do you feel we’ve achieved it?

10. What was the first thing about me that attracted you?

1. How do you like to show love?

2. How do you like to be shown love?

3. If you could plan the perfect date with me, what would that include?

4. How do you express love when words aren’t enough?

5. What’s one moment in our relationship that made you feel deeply connected to me?

1. What’s a romantic gesture you’ve always wanted to experience?

2. What are three things about me that attracted you to me when we first met?

3. What’s your favorite non-physical way to feel close to me?

4. When did you know you loved me?

5. When you listen to music, do you focus on the words or the music?

6. How do you feel about sharing your thoughts and feelings?

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Intimate Questions To Ask Your Partner Over Text

1. What movie do you think would reflect our relationship?

2. What do you remember from when we were falling in love?

3. What’s your favorite way for us to celebrate special occasions?

4. Who was your role model growing up, and why?

5. What did you love to do most as a child?

1. What memory makes you feel the most alive?

2. What skill would you like to master?

3. Where have you always dreamed of visiting?

4. What values do you appreciate in others?

5. What would you like us to do more often together?

6. Who are the most influential people in your life?

7. What are three qualities you admire about yourself?

8. What’s your love language?

9. How do you like to be comforted when you’re feeling anxious?

10. What are your favorite hobbies or activities?

1. What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?

2. How do you think we’ve grown as a couple since we first met?

3. Where would you like us to travel to and why?

4. What have been the happiest moments in your life so far?

5. Which relative are you closest to and why?

6. What’s one thing you hope we never lose as a couple?

7. What’s your favorite memory of us?

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Questions To Build Intimacy

1. What is the best way I can make you feel loved?

2. What have you learned about relationships from your parents?

3. Realistically, how do you see our future together?

4. What is one thing that you’re afraid to tell anyone else?

5. When have you felt the most proud of me?

6. What do you feel is your biggest weakness? How can I help support you in that?

7. How do you want to be remembered?

8. How do you define success?

9. What are your personal boundaries and how do you maintain them?

10. What does emotional intimacy mean to you?

1. What motivates you?

2. What project have you always wanted to start?

3. What are your personal hopes and dreams for the future?

4. What was something your younger self lacked that you know or can do now?

5. Is there anything you’d change about our relationship?

1. How can we improve our communication?

2. What’s a defining moment in your life?

3. If you could relive one of our past days together, which would it be?

4. What values are most important to you?

5. What are your dreams and goals for us as a couple?

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105 Intimate Questions To Ask Your Partner and Reignite That Spark first appeared on Parade on Jun 20, 2025

This story was originally reported by Parade on Jun 20, 2025, where it first appeared.